by: E. Eugene Webb PhD
This past week put us face to face once again with one of the darkest parts of our society.
Our reactions are often predictably
I'm so sorry for your loss. The Oxford
dictionary defines loss as, the fact or process of losing something or someone,
the state or feeling of grief when deprived of someone or something of value. The
Merriam-Webster dictionary defines loss in many ways one of which is: the harm
or privation resulting from losing or being separated from someone or
The question is, when you look at someone
who has suffered a terrible loss, and you say, “I'm so sorry for your loss, are
Another often positive reaction to a loss
such as what we have seen this past week is simply the expression, “I'll be
praying for you, or I'll keep you in my prayers, or we should all keep them in
And the question is: do we really keep
the people who suffer these types of tragedies in our prayers?
Have you, in the past days since the
tragedy in Texas, stopped for an instant, closed your eyes, or dropped your
head, and remembered those who lost children in the Texas’ shooting?
We roll these comments off our tongues, “I'm
so sorry for your loss, and I'll keep you in my prayers," almost literally
without thinking about what we're saying.
More appropriately, do you know how to
offer such a prayer?
Even those with a strong biblically based
faith are often at a loss when it comes to praying in the face of tragedies.
Dealing with grief and loss is difficult
for all of us. It's even more difficult when it is a close loved one. When the
loss is a distant tragedy, one that doesn't directly affect us in a real way,
in many cases, we are just simply looking for the right words.
As the number of these tragedies
continues to grow, these platitudes of concern seem to mean less and less.
If you are genuinely sorry about what
happened in Texas, and you're experiencing a deep sense of grief for those who
were directly involved, then you may want to pray not only for them, but for
yourself and your children.